Friday, July 5, 2013

June 2013, or, What I learned indirectly from (and because of) my parents.

  1. Lambchop hair is the fucking bees knees. Keep twisting!
  2. Burn uncomfortable bras.
  3. Eat a piece of fruit and some sweet potatoes once a day. Don't buy fruit you won't eat. Make sure said food is readily available.
  4. It's okay to go back to the gym.
  5. Practice coping skills everyday, no matter what level of stress environment you are in. When you wake up, ask yourself how you feel, commit it to memory or write it down, and then repeat in the afternoon, the evening, and before you go to bed. Refer to your moods when you evaluate the next day.
  6. Be honest about when you're broke. Forget trying to be altruistic when your father has at least committed himself to taking care of you until you graduate college, even as your parents are freaking out because they're stressed out and broke too. Tell your parents when you're broke and you can't pay them HOA and utilities because you want to eat this month. They won't refuse.
  7. If you have a weird feeling in your gut, don't do it.
  8. Rent to people on your level, and make sure they understand what your boundaries and baselines are ahead of time. Being clean is a priority.
  9. Do not befriend your roommates. Be cordial, but they don't have to be besties. Your home is a business.
  10. If you can't write something from the beginning, then write from the end.
  11. If your hands get antsy whenever you touch your phone, you should begin to leave your phone at home. I know all of your music is on there, and you use it as an alarm clock - invest in a new iPod and a cute alarm clock.
  12. Update your Mac, delete your files, clean routinely.
  13. Even when you tell your dad to be kind to himself, it should be a reminder to also be kind to yourself. 
  14. "Mom reacted as expected. She kicked her mistake under the couch and kept moving. If I wanted to keep a parent, I needed to forgive and accept her as she was - a 60 year old woman with an enormous capacity to love in the present, but never reconcile the past. I cut my losses and moved forward." - Calling Dr. Laura, p 251.
    1. It really sucks to have a panic attack on the freeway because you keep expecting your mother to respect your boundaries when time after time it is proven to you she never will. Remember not to take her so seriously, calm down, and just say okay, hang up, and go back to what you're doing. Cut your losses and move on.
  15. Drink a lot of water and raspberry tea.
  16. Eat your fruit discretely when fruit flies are patrolling your kitchen.
  17. You had a rough month - you don't have to hang out with people if you don't want to, even if they are in the same misery as you are. Don't be ashamed of admitting that you love hanging out by yourself/having your own space.
  18. Always do your best. Never waste anyone's (those people that you respect) time by doing less than your very best.

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